And while she was concentrating on wolfing down everything on her plate, Dilip Kumar’s eyes spotted her potential and he called out to her. For a nine-year-old from a poor family, these were luxuries. What more can I ask for? God has been kind to me.A bottle of coke and potato wafers did the trick. They still listen to me and respect my advice. “By the grace of God, my brothers and sisters have been good. She did not protest when her father made her leave school, nor did she speak out when her relationship with actor Mehmood was ruining her career.īut today Aruna feels that her tough childhood made her financially independent and she is no longer dependent on others. Unlike Sashikala, her tendency is to comply and not go against. Sixty years ago, it was enough if a girl knew how to sign her name.” I couldn’t stand up to my parents, especially my father. She refused to give up studies and managed to clear her matriculation. We were eight children and my father did not earn enough to give us proper education. ![]() Then I was removed from school, so that someone else in my family could study. Like Sashikala, Aruna too was a talented actress and did well in film and TV. I didn’t have any ambition or goal of becoming the number one heroine of the country. I had a huge responsibility of taking care of my entire family ( eight siblings). “I would accept whatever work came my way. She was taken out of school and made to work in films so that her siblings could study. She narrates episode where in she threw plate with food at her father, just because she was upset with him.Īruna Irani like Sashikala started working at an early age to feed her family. That’s when she assigned me to Nirmal Hriday, a home for the dying.” Once at a chance meeting with Mother I hugged her and howled like a baby saying I don’t have inner peace. “All my life I’d been breadwinner for my parents, my siblings, my husband, my children. She was relieved of anger and frustration after she met Mother Teresa and started working for her organisation. Many years later when she was interviewed she admitted that she felt exploited by her family members, her lover and her husband. “I was frustrated and angry at how actresses like Shyama whom I’d beaten to the Rs.25 inaam for the qawwali in Zeenat, had graduated to lead roles while I was stuck with second leads and bit roles, even doing double shifts to keep my kitchen fires burning.” Sashikala was talented actress and soon started doing well in films. Her entire family was dependent on her earnings. ![]() Sashikala was forced to work in films at an early age to sustain her family. ![]() ![]() That’s how I became a mela (dance-drama troupe) artiste.” We’d wait to be invited to someone’s home for lunch as there wasn’t enough food to even light the chullah at home. “We often went without food for 8-10 days. This theory is be useful in understanding behaviour of two Indian actresses who did not have normal childhood. As a coping mechanism a person may move towards people ( comply with what he is told to do), he may move away from people ( try to withdraw from people) or may move against people( show aggression). She gave importance to parent child relationship, which she felt was key to understand neurosis in a person. Karen Horney was German psychoanalyst who is well known for her theory of neurosis.
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